Is lack of alignment one of your barriers to joy and a state of peaceful wellbeing? Would you like to know how you can tell? And then would you like to know what to do about it? Alignment is similar to living on purpose but much deeper – it’s not about “what we do” but how “we be”. Let’s start by acknowledging that you can’t “think” your way to alignment. You need to feel your way through – tune into your inner wisdom – to your soul and then feel it in your body. I’ll give you a hint. Alignment is a knowing.
I’ve heard both Deepak Chopra and Wayne Dyer say, “Be open to everything and attached to nothing.” A less stressful way to live a joyful life in my opinion. But what if you’re not sure how to release attachments you have to people, things, or patterns? I have to admit, in the beginning I had a hard time with the topic of detachment because I equated being detached from not really wanting something. And as a type A driver, who was always very goal-oriented, I was confused about setting goals but then telling myself to not be concerned about the outcome. This quote from Deepak from his book Creating Affluence really helped me to understand detachment more clearly:
We can all succumb to worry from time to time. It’s natural to let the turmoil of the world get in our heads and stress us out. But what if I told you there were some practical ways to reduce your attachment to worry so you can return to joy. Would you be interested? I’ve found some great ways to change worry habits into joy habits. And they work! Let’s dive in for a closer look.
This month’s full moon is coming in a couple of days - September 13 - and what an interesting day for it to be occurring... Friday the 13th! I’ve never been someone that has fretted about Friday the 13th. Because I know that worrying about something only puts attention on the thing that I don’t want, and it is more likely to happen if that’s where my focus is. That’s really how the law of attraction works. What we focus on, whether we want it or not, is what will show up for us. So best to watch your thoughts this Friday.
Is control one of your barriers to joy and abundance? Is it a habit you think may be getting in the way of your wellbeing? Is it something you would like to release? In the free document I give people who sign-up for my newsletter, I’ve identified what I call the 8 Barriers to Joy and Abundance. And one of the big ones is control. See if you can recognize yourself in any of these scenarios:
What kind of friend are you? Do you live your life juicy with a big enthusiastic smile that lifts the spirits of those around you? Or do you complain about your aches and pains, the politics of the day, or constantly judge others. Which one would you rather be around? Enthusiastic people are open to life and invite you to come along for the adventure. The complainers will drain your energy and steal your joy.
Name 3 things that get you excited about the work you do. Now name 3 things that make you enthusiastic about the work you do. Notice the difference in your energy as you think about the distinction between the two? For me, I get excited every morning knowing that each day will be a clean slate to build upon. But I become enthusiastic when I use my imagination to create the reality I want for that day. Subtle difference but profound. But we need them both.
To me a good book is like a good friend. And I agree with Paxton Hood, that we need to be just as choosy about the books we read as the company we keep. Both can have profound influences in our lives. They can either uplift or deplete our spirit. I am drawn to books, movies and television programs that include people or subjects that feed my curiosity and enthusiasm for learning. And I especially find my joy vibration increase when I am inspired by other writers. Here’s a classic about the very subject of this month’s theme on enthusiasm:
Have you ever noticed how enthusiastic the little ones are? They live in a world of no limits, they are curious about everything and get excited about the simplest things. What a great way to experience life. So why, as adults, don’t we anymore? You might say, well life is hard. I have responsibilities. I’m a realist. I’m too busy. I have to be an adult. Whatever the story you want to tell yourself, I’m here to tell you it’s just an illusion!
When you ask a child what they want to be when they grow up, you can get a wide variety of answers. I remember my own son saying as a preschooler that he wanted to be a fire truck. I didn’t correct him. I let him create that image in his own mind as if it was attainable. Well, as you might expect, he didn’t grow up to be a fire truck or even a fire fighter. But that’s not really the point.