I know this Christmas and holiday season are different than what you likely planned. I too have had to make some adjustments. But what these past few months have taught me most of all, is how adaptable the human species really is. I see it in the way businesses have learned to improvise. The way parents have learned how to keep young minds busy. And how most people have adapted to new ways of connecting with friends and loved ones while still remaining safe at a distance. We are a resilient bunch, we humans. Our sheer survival depends on it. But what about any anxiety or fears you may be carrying about an uncertain future? Or worries about the lack of money, opportunities, or freedoms that you’ve had to adjust to. How do you overcome the feeling of scarcity as the world seems to be turned upside down?
A few years ago, when I was exhibiting at a metaphysical trade show, a woman came up to my booth and wanted to share her philosophy about spirituality. Tends to happen a lot at these kinds of fairs. Not wishing to be rude, I let her explain her point of view. She was of the opinion that she had to suffer in order to attain enlightenment. And furthermore, she believed that in order to be a spiritual person, she had to live a life of poverty. Well as a conscious capitalist who is also a person who deeply believes in Spirit and the goodness in all, I was a bit taken aback. I asked her how she came to that conclusion. After smiling nervously and thinking a bit about it, she explained that because she was already poor, there must have been a reason for her lot in life and the conclusion she came to was that it must be because she is “so spiritual”. There was no point in trying to convince her that it was her poverty consciousness that kept her in a state of suffering and lack as that was her belief and she was sticking to it.
It’s natural to feel anxious these days when faced with so many changes as a result of the pandemic. The everyday uncertainty of what restrictions might come next goes against our primal need for control and our compulsion for accumulation. But maybe that’s the point. Instead of trying to control everything around us and fester in fear about not having enough, how about we loosen our grip for a minute so that we can focus our attention on all that we do have. Because as Wayne Dyer famously said, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Today’s blog will ask you to reexamine your beliefs about scarcity and abundance. And it will challenge you to stretch your perceptions about accumulation. Are you up for it?
We’ve all heard the famous quote by Mahatma Gandhi that tells us to “be the change we want to see.” Well the same goes for abundance and everything else for that matter. You have to live in the energy of the thing you desire in order for it to materialize. That’s why I titled my book Being Joy™, because I truly believe that you cannot look for joy. You must remember it and then embody it or “be” it. This month’s theme for helping you remember your joy is Be Abundant. You see, we live in an abundant universe and in order to attract more of what you want you must be prepared to see it in everyone and everything. Feel abundant in all you do. Be abundant in all you are. Trust me. When you start to think this way more of the time, good things will happen. It just the way the law of attraction works. And it works every time.
It’s easy to believe that we live in a divided world these days. One that is out of balance socially, economically, politically, and environmentally. But I also believe we are out of balance spiritually. Over the years, we have allowed our moral compass to become spiritually eroded, much like we’ve allowed the land that gives us life to be physically eroded. I believe that one of the reasons for this depletion is that we have bought into the fallacy that there’s not enough to go around so therefore “the other” is our enemy. And for centuries, with the exception of indigenous peoples, we’ve treated mother earth as our property, to do with her what we want instead of respecting her as our sacred partner. This disharmony has occurred gradually, without most of us taking much notice. That’s how insidious “the hypnosis of social conditioning” can be. But in my opinion, one of the most dangerous beliefs we hold is that there is nothing we can do to change the outcome. We’ve become victims to our own beliefs. We feel helpless.
I absolutely love the quote for this week’s blog about the Being Joy™ habit “Be Believing”. The first time I read it, it made me literally stop in my tracks. At that very moment I realized how strong our beliefs really are. How they limit or how they empower the vision we hold of what is possible. But can we really grow a new limb? Why not? Afterall, for eons, people believed the world was flat or that only birds could fly. And it hasn’t even been four decades since the first personal computer was sold by IBM on August 12, 1981. (Remember them?) Just look where we are now with technology advancing at warp speed, making what used to be believed as science fiction, now common place. And think about what’s still to come! So how does this make you think about your own life? What limiting beliefs do you own that are keeping you from remembering your joy and fulfilling your destiny?
Do you give people the benefit of the doubt or do you seek proof of their good intentions first? Are you quick to judge and ask questions later? Are you someone who holds your breath waiting for “the other shoe to drop”? Do you see the glass half full or half empty? These questions are basically all one and the same. The answers reveal your beliefs about the world and the players in it. It’s not good or bad. It’s just how you see it. But if you are someone who struggles with poor self-esteem or worries about what bogeyman is hiding behind every door, you might want to look at how you see others. Just as Denise Linn suggests in our opening quote, trust in people has to be reciprocal.
You’ve likely heard someone suggest that you “listen to your own truth”. But what does that really mean? Isn’t there only one truth? The reality is that you don’t see the world the way it is. You actually see it the way you are. It’s your beliefs that shape your experiences which in turn defines the way you interpret your world which ultimately becomes your truth. When you change your beliefs, you change your truth. But what if you’re not sure what your truth really is? Perhaps you’ve let others define it for you. Have you let others blow your candle out? Time to take back your power.
This is the last in my September blog series about the joy habit – Be Respectful, based on my book Being Joy™. Week One talked about showing respect for yourself by listening to the messages your body, mind, and spirit were telling you. Week Two was all about improving your self-respect by showing others how you want to be treated. Last week I asked you to extend genuine respect by holding space for others to share their truth. This week I’d like you to expand your respect even further. Mother Earth needs you! There is no question that our planet’s future is in peril. You only have to watch the news or look around you to fully comprehend how fragile our eco-system is. Record wildfires, flooding, tropical storms, heat waves, droughts, polar ice erosion, green-house gas emissions, and species endangerment. We are on a collision course with a ticking time clock. But I truly believe it’s not too late. Here’s my challenge.
What would you say is the best way to show respect to someone? Is it to gush over them with compliments? Do you minimize yourself, so they know you have elevated them to a position of more importance? And do you show respect only towards people who think the way you do? As we are becoming more and more polarized in the way we perceive the world and our importance in it, I fear that we have lost the true meaning of respect. For ourselves, for others, and for this world we call home. Today’s blog is about taking the next step by sending those respect ripples out towards others so that we can begin to heal ourselves as a people. In my opinion, it’s the pathway to changing the world. So what’s the best way to show respect towards others?