She was only 15 when she left. No longer able to endure the abuse she was subjected to at home, she did the only thing she thought she could do in those days. After a few short months she learned she was pregnant. Scared and alone she knew she would have to finally trust someone enough to ask for help. Giving her baby up for adoption was the hardest thing she ever had to do. That was before she did the second hardest thing.
For years, she drifted from one bad situation to the next. In and out of treatment centers and even a short time behind bars when her rage got the best of her. Eventually through a women’s support group she found the courage to confront the shame she had been carrying all those years. Thus began her journey towards the second hardest thing. Self-forgiveness.
Now, don’t get me wrong. This wasn’t an easy feat as she tells it. It took years of patience and courage to acknowledge the pain she had suffered as an innocent child and to confront her demons. She had to really “see” and “feel” the hurt of being diminished. Then she had to piece together the experiences that led to her escape from an abusive home and the actions she took that resulted in an unwanted pregnancy.
She had to acknowledge it before she could release it. She had to finally purge the shame, the most important first step towards inner healing.
You see, shame is the most toxic emotion you can hold. If joy is at the top of the vibrational scale of loving energy, then shame is at the bottom. If feeds the false narrative that says you’re not worthy and prevents the condition that is essential for healing the heart.
Forgiveness of self is self-love. Like I’ve always said, you can’t give away what you don’t have. And in my estimation, we all need to extend as much forgiveness towards ourselves and others during this time of such divisiveness and rigid thinking.
As the quote that opened this blog suggests, we must learn to see the innocence in others, understanding that most of us are doing the best we can with what we know at the time. And when we know better, most of us do better. But until we see ourselves in “the other” and acknowledge that “to err is human and to forgive is divine”, we will not achieve the global harmony that is at the very core of our collective mission. At least, that’s the way I see it.
Until next week, honour yourself and others by keeping your frequency high, your mind open, and your joy ever expanding!
Love from your Joy Mama,
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