You’ve likely heard someone say they are “holding space” for a friend who is going through a challenge. Or maybe someone has asked you to hold space for them. But what does that really mean? In this week’s blog, I share my interpretation of this expression and its bearing on this month’s joy habit of being present.
Have you ever wanted to meditate but were confused about how to do it? Or if you do meditate, do you worry that you’re not doing it right? If so, you’re not alone. There are so many methods of meditation and no shortage of people who are ready to tell you that their way is the right way. But that’s not true. As Neal Donald Walsh said it best, “Ours is not a better way, ours is merely another way.” Great advice for living a joyful life – takes the pressure off! So here’s the deal.
In this week’s blog I’m going to share three of my favourite activities to help you slow your roll so that you can live more joyfully in the present moment. You may already be familiar with some of these practices, however, others may be new to you. My intention is to provide you with a gentle reminder of the importance of slowing down, being present, taking it all in, moment by moment without judgement. Just being.
Do you sometimes drive somewhere and when you arrive you don’t remember driving there? Your mind was thinking ahead to your plans for the weekend, or what to cook for dinner, or you were replaying an argument you had with your partner. You had simply driven to your destination on autopilot. Happens all the time when we’re not living in the now. I call that distracted living. The danger of course with distracted living is that you’re missing out on what’s happening in the moment, which is after-all the only thing you have any control over.
I am a proud joy activist. That means that my mission is to live in the high vibration of joy as much as possible so that I can help others to do the same. That’s why I wrote my book Being Joy™. You see, I heard more and more people say they were feeling overwhelmed with worry and short on inspiration. And they simply didn’t feel the same passion for life that they once did. Can you relate? Then I began noticing how disconnected many people were feeling from themselves and from others. They became vulnerable to the trappings of quick-fix distractions like drugs, alcohol, gambling, shopping or food. Bottom line—they just wanted to remember what real joy felt like again before it was too late. Does this sound like someone you know?
I believe we are all searching for inner and outer peace, probably more than ever before. With our world in such turmoil, it can be challenging not to let the fear messages we see and hear in every “breaking news” bulletin feed our worry. But it’s at these very times that we need to watch our words and thoughts even more carefully as they have an impact on our peace of mind. I suggest that instead of giving in to the “hypnosis of social conditioning”, we look for symbols and images of peace and goodness to elevate our vibrational frequency to that of joy. See the peace and be the peace.
Last weekend we celebrated Thanksgiving in Canada. A time for sharing our blessings with friends and family or just spending peaceful time alone in gratitude. I especially love this time of year. The peacefulness and patience of nature as it slows down to make way for retreat and rejuvenation for the next season. A clear pathway to joy in my opinion. I especially love this time of year, the peacefulness and patience of nature as it slows down to make way for retreat and rejuvenation for the next season. A clear pathway to joy in my opinion. I think Ralph Waldo Emerson said it best in this quote, "Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience." So, how can peace and patience help you remember your joy?
Over the centuries, humanity has been blessed with women and men whose life work was to bring healing to the heart and peace to the world. Mother Teresa, the Dalai Lama, Mahatma Gandhi, and Jesus Christ are the ones who tend to be most top of mind. And I believe we have many more peace champions who live among us today. One that I want to talk about today is Saint Francis of Assisi, or Giovanni di Pietro di Bernardone as he was born as in 1182.
Is lack of alignment one of your barriers to joy and a state of peaceful wellbeing? Would you like to know how you can tell? And then would you like to know what to do about it? Alignment is similar to living on purpose but much deeper – it’s not about “what we do” but how “we be”. Let’s start by acknowledging that you can’t “think” your way to alignment. You need to feel your way through – tune into your inner wisdom – to your soul and then feel it in your body. I’ll give you a hint. Alignment is a knowing.
I’ve heard both Deepak Chopra and Wayne Dyer say, “Be open to everything and attached to nothing.” A less stressful way to live a joyful life in my opinion. But what if you’re not sure how to release attachments you have to people, things, or patterns? I have to admit, in the beginning I had a hard time with the topic of detachment because I equated being detached from not really wanting something. And as a type A driver, who was always very goal-oriented, I was confused about setting goals but then telling myself to not be concerned about the outcome. This quote from Deepak from his book Creating Affluence really helped me to understand detachment more clearly: