Have you ever noticed how tense your body gets when you "dig your heels in" because you're fixated on having to be in control? So the notion of just stopping for a minute, taking a deep breath and surrendering to the moment might feel like you're giving in. But the truth is that surrender means you’re letting go long enough to let your joy in. Surrender is sweet. It’s liberating. It heals your spirit. It opens up a new window allowing you to see with your mind’s eye, all that you need to see. But in order for that to happen, you must remain flexible as you surrender to a path that may wind in some new directions.
how do you change if you’re fearful of the unknown? In my free eBook 8 Barrier to Joy and Abundance, I have rated the need to control right after the joy blockers of “I’m not Worthy” and “There’s Not Enough”. It’s a biggy. In actuality, the habit of having to control everything and the reluctance to change is based on fear, which leads to desperation and begging for what you want. This type of fear is based on push or chase energy and will inevitably block the flow of that which you most desire. You see, the more you struggle to get what you want, the more you are pushing it away. Why?
With just two more days until Valentine’s Day, this week’s blog is about how living with an open heart can soften the resistance that may be blocking your joy. Being open-hearted means being flexible and not rigid. And it means allowing yourself to be vulnerable. To me, it’s the combination of both of these elements that opens you up to the truth of yourself. As Neale Donald Walsch said, “When the heart is cracked open, we access the most profound human secret of life and that is the secret of your true identity.” To crack open your heart means to let go, to allow yourself to be seen, not just by others, but by yourself as well. It’s where the real power lies.
In this week’s blog, I want to expand a bit more on the message behind the full quote I wrote about in this month’s Joy Matters newsletter from martial arts legend Bruce Lee. (By the way, if you don’t get my newsletter, you can easily sign up for it here.) Here's the quote: “Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless – like water. Now you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup, you put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow, or it can crash. Be water, my friend.” When I ran across this quote a few years ago, I immediately understood the magic behind Lee’s amazing martial arts abilities. It was all about being flexible, going with the flow, surrendering instead of forcing. And in my opinion, one of the fastest ways to remember your joy. This is what I mean.